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BucksCountyFigs said:
I received a message (on fb messenger) from Scarlett’s Hph Nlr, who said that she was an admin of a fig group that I don’t belong to, but that I had talked to a collector that was in her exclusive fig group, and that I should stop, and I should never talk to a collector since a collector has so many varieties that they would never be interested in anything I might have or ever want to sell to me.

I asked her what group she was the admin of, but she wouldn’t tell me since she said that I could never join. (I didn’t want to join, I was just trying to figure out what was happening.)

I apologized and said I was brand new to figs and how could I tell someone was a collector, so I would know not to bother them. No answer, she just said those people had over 100 varieties, and I should not talk to any collectors. She then chewed me out over numerous, numerous texts about the whole thing.

Then a little later, it happened again, but with someone else in her group!

She saw that I was talking to a different person on a fig forum (not her forum), but who was also a member of her group, so she messaged to chew me out again!

I said that the member and I were having a nice interactive conversation, so was I suppose to just stop talking to that person and not reply to that person’s texts?

It was really an ugly thing, and she went on and on, really being horrible to me, and honestly I still don’t quite understand why. And I’m not a sensitive person that way, but I did feel really bad and unwelcome in the new hobby.

Personally, if someone contacted me that I didn’t want to talk to, I just wouldn’t reply, or I would say, I’m not trading or selling fig trees. I wouldn’t sic the mod from another group on them, although I don’t think the second person did that.
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Really sorry to hear of that incident. I hope that you reported it to Facebook.
Im a member of a bunch of different FB groups. Im pretty sure I know of the group referenced, I have noticed a possessive posture with an Admin, but never knew that kind of activity was going on through Messages.
 
BucksCountyFigs said:
I received a message (on fb messenger) from Scarlett’s Hph Nlr, who said that she was an admin of a fig group that I don’t belong to, but that I had talked to a collector that was in her exclusive fig group, and that I should stop, and I should never talk to a collector since a collector has so many varieties that they would never be interested in anything I might have or ever want to sell to me.

I asked her what group she was the admin of, but she wouldn’t tell me since she said that I could never join. (I didn’t want to join, I was just trying to figure out what was happening.)

I apologized and said I was brand new to figs and how could I tell someone was a collector, so I would know not to bother them. No answer, she just said those people had over 100 varieties, and I should not talk to any collectors. She then chewed me out over numerous, numerous texts about the whole thing.

Then a little later, it happened again, but with someone else in her group!

She saw that I was talking to a different person on a fig forum (not her forum), but who was also a member of her group, so she messaged to chew me out again!

I said that the member and I were having a nice interactive conversation, so was I suppose to just stop talking to that person and not reply to that person’s texts?

It was really an ugly thing, and she went on and on, really being horrible to me, and honestly I still don’t quite understand why. And I’m not a sensitive person that way, but I did feel really bad and unwelcome in the new hobby.

Personally, if someone contacted me that I didn’t want to talk to, I just wouldn’t reply, or I would say, I’m not trading or selling fig trees. I wouldn’t sic the mod from another group on them, although I don’t think the second person did that.
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Im sorry to hear about your Facebook encounter. I know the group your referring to and I would say they’re is a lot of nice people in it, as well as several other groups but with Facebook I think you get some bad experiences from time to time. You can also get those on other fig websites. I only use Facebook to take part in the various fig communities and I’ve met a lot of nice people ( including you ) but I understand that can come with a bad encounter from time to time.
 
BucksCountyFigs said:
I received a message (on fb messenger) from Scarlett’s Hph Nlr, who said that she was an admin of a fig group that I don’t belong to, but that I had talked to a collector that was in her exclusive fig group, and that I should stop, and I should never talk to a collector since a collector has so many varieties that they would never be interested in anything I might have or ever want to sell to me.

I asked her what group she was the admin of, but she wouldn’t tell me since she said that I could never join. (I didn’t want to join, I was just trying to figure out what was happening.)

I apologized and said I was brand new to figs and how could I tell someone was a collector, so I would know not to bother them. No answer, she just said those people had over 100 varieties, and I should not talk to any collectors. She then chewed me out over numerous, numerous texts about the whole thing.

Then a little later, it happened again, but with someone else in her group!

She saw that I was talking to a different person on a fig forum (not her forum), but who was also a member of her group, so she messaged to chew me out again!

I said that the member and I were having a nice interactive conversation, so was I suppose to just stop talking to that person and not reply to that person’s texts?

It was really an ugly thing, and she went on and on, really being horrible to me, and honestly I still don’t quite understand why. And I’m not a sensitive person that way, but I did feel really bad and unwelcome in the new hobby.

Personally, if someone contacted me that I didn’t want to talk to, I just wouldn’t reply, or I would say, I’m not trading or selling fig trees. I wouldn’t sic the mod from another group on them, although I don’t think the second person did that.
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Wow, I'm glad you came over here to this forum. I am also glad that kind of nonsense doesn't happen here.
 
BucksCountyFigs said:
As you know, I had a rocky start in figs- being yelled at for contacting “collectors” to ask a question, when I didn’t know that was such a thing; being ripped off a few times when I first tried to buy my first baby trees; being told I couldn’t buy a fig unless I went on a date with someone (yeah, that was a weird one), etc.

Then someone suggested that I join this group, and since then, it’s been so awesome.

Experienced fig people here are helpful and encouraging to newbies like me, not dismissive or annoyed by our newbie questions, and actually engage with us.

I very much appreciate your experience and willingness to help. It’s hard being at the bottom of the pile again, and you all encourage the joy in talking about different varieties and growing them.

This forum is a unique and wonderful way to encourage the love of figs and of community, which I very much value. And I have been so fortunate to have started some lovely friendships in the short time I have been here.

I appreciate you all and the efforts that you put into making this a fun, helpful, and vibrant community!
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What the actual helly?!?
 
Since FB is part of the topic here.
Does anyone know a way to filter posts on your feed so that you don't see the same post someone makes across all the multiple groups that you and that person have in common? Not that I have any issue with the person or the content of the post just that I don't want to see it 3 to 10 times repeated on my feed because we have common memberships.
 
DCallahan said:
Since FB is part of the topic here.
Does anyone know a way to filter posts on your feed so that you don't see the same post someone makes across all the multiple groups that you and that person have in common? Not that I have any issue with the person or the content of the post just that I don't want to see it 3 to 10 times repeated on my feed because we have common memberships.
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I have noticed this too...but i do not mess with the settings or filters enough to know how to stop it.
But...now I'm going to see if there is a way.
 
DCallahan said:
Since FB is part of the topic here.
Does anyone know a way to filter posts on your feed so that you don't see the same post someone makes across all the multiple groups that you and that person have in common? Not that I have any issue with the person or the content of the post just that I don't want to see it 3 to 10 times repeated on my feed because we have common memberships.
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I can feel your talking about me😆
 
BucksCountyFigs said:
I received a message (on fb messenger) from Scarlett’s Hph Nlr, who said that she was an admin of a fig group that I don’t belong to, but that I had talked to a collector that was in her exclusive fig group, and that I should stop, and I should never talk to a collector since a collector has so many varieties that they would never be interested in anything I might have or ever want to sell to me.

I asked her what group she was the admin of, but she wouldn’t tell me since she said that I could never join. (I didn’t want to join, I was just trying to figure out what was happening.)

I apologized and said I was brand new to figs and how could I tell someone was a collector, so I would know not to bother them. No answer, she just said those people had over 100 varieties, and I should not talk to any collectors. She then chewed me out over numerous, numerous texts about the whole thing.

Then a little later, it happened again, but with someone else in her group!

She saw that I was talking to a different person on a fig forum (not her forum), but who was also a member of her group, so she messaged to chew me out again!

I said that the member and I were having a nice interactive conversation, so was I suppose to just stop talking to that person and not reply to that person’s texts?

It was really an ugly thing, and she went on and on, really being horrible to me, and honestly I still don’t quite understand why. And I’m not a sensitive person that way, but I did feel really bad and unwelcome in the new hobby.

Personally, if someone contacted me that I didn’t want to talk to, I just wouldn’t reply, or I would say, I’m not trading or selling fig trees. I wouldn’t sic the mod from another group on them, although I don’t think the second person did that.
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There is a fb group that is very exclusive (maybe it is the same group) and I believe you have to be a well-known collector to be allowed to join.
 
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Kompakfigs said:
There is a fb group that is very exclusive (maybe it is the same group) and I believe you have to be well-known collector to be allowed to join.
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Hmm? Wonder if I am a member of that one. I am a member of so many of them. But I don't comment much. I use FB to keep up with the rest of the fig world. I find this forum more personal and a lot more friendly.
 
BucksCountyFigs said:
I received a message (on fb messenger) from Scarlett’s Hph Nlr, who said that she was an admin of a fig group that I don’t belong to, but that I had talked to a collector that was in her exclusive fig group, and that I should stop, and I should never talk to a collector since a collector has so many varieties that they would never be interested in anything I might have or ever want to sell to me.

I asked her what group she was the admin of, but she wouldn’t tell me since she said that I could never join. (I didn’t want to join, I was just trying to figure out what was happening.)

I apologized and said I was brand new to figs and how could I tell someone was a collector, so I would know not to bother them. No answer, she just said those people had over 100 varieties, and I should not talk to any collectors. She then chewed me out over numerous, numerous texts about the whole thing.

Then a little later, it happened again, but with someone else in her group!

She saw that I was talking to a different person on a fig forum (not her forum), but who was also a member of her group, so she messaged to chew me out again!

I said that the member and I were having a nice interactive conversation, so was I suppose to just stop talking to that person and not reply to that person’s texts?

It was really an ugly thing, and she went on and on, really being horrible to me, and honestly I still don’t quite understand why. And I’m not a sensitive person that way, but I did feel really bad and unwelcome in the new hobby.

Personally, if someone contacted me that I didn’t want to talk to, I just wouldn’t reply, or I would say, I’m not trading or selling fig trees. I wouldn’t sic the mod from another group on them, although I don’t think the second person did that.
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I totally understand..... I became friends with not a fig guy but a paw-paw guy, but when he asked what I was wearing one night, and I blew up at him, well that stopped.... so I came here, I don't see him here, and everyone is so nice. I have grown figs for years, but literally still have some pretty lame ( to me ) questions, and everyone is always so nice.
 
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